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Sunday, 26 May 2019

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Before you marry her or him

BEFORE YOU SAY I DO TO THAT MARRIAGE READ THIS -

A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Do you know that? No!! Love will blind your eyes and blind you to his/her faults. You'll have your dream wedding even though your gut instincts keeps telling you you're doing the wrong thing. After some months or years, you'll not allow us to hear word about how you married the devil!


What is the damn rush to get married? What?! Okay, you want to have your kids at a young age. You want to be with the love of your life. Good choices but if you pick a monster as a life partner, only you will bear the pain o. Just you. The best we can do is give you advice and console you when he beats you up or apply *aboniki* balm to your cheeks.
I'm so pained tonight. Too pained. I'm angry.

NOBODY IS PERFECT

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Nobody is perfect, they say but you can choose your own kind of perfect/imperfect. It's not by fine face or plenty money o. I've seen fine people who are pieces of crap, no worth at all. No sense of moral judgement, no sense of coordination, just fine, finish!! One thing I'm cocksure about is, when a man meets a woman he fancies or vice versa, if the both of you aren't meant to be, gosh! You'll see the signs. I know you'll see the signs but it's left to you to know if you can deal with these traits of theirs. If you can deal, fine but if you can't, can you just please leave already? Or just be friends? You mustn't date each other!! Have a standard please!!


You'll see someone that obviously (clearly) has anger issues. Someone who can't even behave himself/herself on the first date but will you open your eyes and have sense? Nooooo!!! Infatuation will cover your eyes because he/she probably speaks English fine and they're good looking and you'll think it's just a small issue. "I can change him". I really hate it when ladies think they can change a man or a man can change because of love.

My darling, you only see that in historical romance novels. You better don't fool yourself. You better calm down! Just chill let God do His work.

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MARRIAGE IS NOT FANTASY


A Reverend sister who was our English teacher back in Secondary school actually stopped us from reading romance novels and her reason was, "it makes you build castles in the air". How right she was. Of course, I didn't believe her then. Prince Charming was always around the corner. Lol.

Ladies, the Prince Charming that we all know and think about is dead o. Y'all need to stay woke and get your wits together. What?? How can you beat your pregnant wife? I don't get it! Awota'm!!
Don't close your eyes to anybody's faults. I get it that nobody is perfect...

WHY DO YOU DATE?

Before you marry him or her


But if the kitchen is too hot for you, just get out! These days, people go into relationships because of infatuation, not even love. Ehen, what do you know is love? Lol. Think of love in its original form and you might not even have it. So when you get into a relationship because of fickle reasons like, he/she is a good kisser, he/she buys me gifts or called me every day, etc. Fickle things that don't make sense. I just want you to ask yourself if that is what is going to keep you in the relationship. Just ask yourself that question. Another question you should ask yourself is if you'd love the person you're currently with to be the mother/father of your children.

Is he/she the person you want your kids to look up to? If the answer is *No*, can you stop wasting your time?
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I'm going to touchdown on a very sensitive topic now and I need you to open your minds and look at the possibilities. It might not be true in everyone's case but most times, it is true.

The truth is, most relationships that start with sex are borne out of lust and they don't last!!
If you both are having sex on the first date, what's left to know about each other again? You're intimate already so your history has both been downloaded into each other. It becomes boring and soon, you start to see things that list didn't let you see at first then the kingdom will fall apart.
You'll see someone giving you subtle or overt threats and you'll still open your mouth to say you love him/her. Heiii!! Onye mere gi dis thing?

You'll see someone ogling you unashamedly and you'll still go ahead to date him. When he leaves, you'll start complaining. Of course, he came for the body and once he has had his fill, he'll leave. I know, it happens to the best of us but you don't have to keep making mistakes.
A girl openly flirts with your friends and you're cool with it. After all, you give her anything she needs so she won't seek other pleasures. Hian!! Ike gwuru nno.

Let me rest here because the issues are many but may we never bear more than we can carry. May God continue to give us grace.

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UCHE EZEUDU,
creative writer.


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